Did you know 27.6 % of Canadians live alone, and this percentage is steadily on the incline; so is the search for the Ultimate soul passé? Have I missed the boat. Over the age of 60 this percentage greatly increases for single females, oiy vey this is getting depressing, should I just throw in the towel, buy a cat and settle into a life of a crazy cat lady. Which I may add does have a strange appeal to it, except for my weird aversion to hair.
Is there reason why more and more people are living alone, am I missing the advantages of living alone by contemplating wanting perhaps to be with another. I do like living alone, why?
Being single means out of the 24 hours in a day you are the sole owner of all 24 hours. Where you go is where you want to go, what you do is what you want to do. Oh yes all those little self help books/articles tell you to go find yourself. Let me just say after looking for over 50 years all I have ever found were some well aged dust bunnies. For me this is more like the time to allow yourself to live, to fulfill your dreams. Friends, they are all yours, there is no need for you to tolerate anyone, the people in your life are there because you want them to be there. Travel on a whim, be spontaneous, try something new, explore, implore, these are all very realistic expectations one can set for themselves when you are single and you only have to ask permission from one person, you!
So why am I looking if being single is so flipping awesome?…….. I miss that excited feeling you get when someone you are attracted to walks into the room. There is a unique feeling of being in love that super imposes the aspects of life, I miss those butterflies.
And So it is back to the coffee project, I may be paddling up a creek with no paddles, and yet for now it is where I want to be, in a position to see, meet or bump into a possibility.
Happiness is finding another reason to smile.